Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Nana Bess: ugh! I am afraid you get this from me! :( I used to give your dad the silent treatment ALL THE TIME.. like everytime we got in "fights" over ususally something so silly. My feelings would get hurt and all I wanted was an apology of some sort. "I am sorry". But your dad KNEW I was mad and thought that the "silient treament" was me being mad and he left me alone. So I could get over it and move on. I don't get over things until they are hashed out and there is an end to the arguement and an "I am sorry" "I love you" ANYTHING.
Loki: T (I can not keep calling him Big T...it is just getting weird) likes to run away from me. He leaves. Which I get is a good point. This is something we learned early in our relationship because if we didn't take a break than it just esculates into something nasty. The problem with this so called break is that he never comes back and says "ok let's discuss this again". Bleh. I am just trying to explain my feelings and I feel like it is very clear and that there should be some sort of compassion or understanding or some kind of acknowledgment that I just poured my heart out and that I am struggling or whatever and then.....SILENCE. HELLO!! I am speaking to you! Oh my gosh do you know who else does this? Stella. She shuts down and is silent too when you start arguing with her. Drives me bonkers. I am a yeller and a screamer...I don't know how to be silent.
Nana Bess: This is what I do now. I get mad and let the man know my feelings. (with out yelling or whinning, which is extremely HARD to do). Then I get over it. I don't expect him to tell me HIS feelings on the subject, because I have learned over the years, he just doesn't have the words to express himself or he chooses not to. Whichever. I just move on. It is the hardest thing to do, but alas.. it is the only thing to do! My only constalation is I have let HIM know exactly HOW I feel. I am and always will be an open book. JUST ASK! ha/ha.
Loki: Consolation mom...not constalation. Thats like a group of stars or something in the sky. Sorry I just had to. Between us two I am sure Stella would have a hay day trying to edit this masterpeice.
Nana Bess: ha/ha... yeah yeah.. whatever the word is..you get the point! I do often use the wrong words or spelling of words, but I know those who love me understand what I am trying to say. I got a laugh out of that one myself! :) And, btw.. I am sorry you, too have a non-wordy, lets resolve things man.... I feel your pain.. but look at me.. 29 years nearly later and I am still here and able to love and live with the non-wordy man! :) (and yes.. Stella does do this, but I think it is good, because if she shuts down like that it is her way of NOT exploding. I think that is why your father does it too. It is really a good thing. Silence vs explosion. Maybe it is the same reason Big T walks away!
Stella: I am not even going to try. But it's CONSTELLATION, you fools
What is your fighting technique OR do you prefer to look at ducks in the sky?